Dad Misses His Daughter’s Wedding Because He Wanted To Walk His Stepdaughter Down The Aisle, Now His Daughter Won’t Talk To Him (2024)

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What does a father do when he walks his daughter down the aisle? ›

So, in short, the father would personally present the bride at the altar to ensure the groom didn't get cold feet and tarnish the family's name. Today, the act of the father walking the bride down the aisle is seen as a way to show support for this next chapter in life—and not as a business deal.

Your best approach is to keep things positive and not about the reasons why you don't want him to walk you down. Keep things somewhat generalised. Tell him how you are happy to have him in your life.

The bride is escorted down the aisle by her father, who stands on her right side. Traditionally, after he gives her away, he lifts her veil, gives her a kiss, then takes his seat in the first row next to the bride's mother.

If this seems old-fashioned, that's because it is: The practice dates back to the days when a woman was viewed as the property of her father, and he gave her away on the wedding day in exchange for a dowry.

We all know the traditional answer. Look at any wedding ceremony processional guide, and you'll find the bride is escorted by her father. Today's bride has many more options! For brides with supportive fathers at home, You may decide to share in the longstanding tradition.

Walking Down The Aisle

To avoid any conflict, a bride may wish to have both her father and step-father walk her down the aisle side by side, or one may wish to walk halfway before handing over to the other. Choose what suits your family relationship best.

Traditionally, a bride walks down the aisle with her father, so having two father figures can turn the processional into a logistical headache.

While it might be part to picture anyone else walking you down the aisle, there's certainly no rule against it. If there's someone else you feel comfortable with walking you down the aisle, by all means, ask them! They'll be so honored you did.

3. Parents. Again, the couple's parents may or may not walk down the aisle (they can also just take their seats as the procession begins). Traditionally, the groom's parents will go first, followed by the mother of the bride, but the couple may choose to be escorted down the aisle by one or both of their parents.

If your daughter's getting married and including a traditional processional, you can probably expect to walk her down the aisle. If the ceremony's more personalized, you might be asked to officiate the marriage, walk your spouse or your own mother down the aisle, or even make a solo procession.

Who walks the stepmom down the aisle? ›

A Groomsman

This is the traditional choice and gives the guy another few moments in the spotlight. If the bride has a stepmother, she would be escorted to her seat by a groomsman before the mother of the bride; the bride's mom should be the last person to be escorted down the aisle, just before the bridal party.

Consider gifting your daughter a piece of personalised jewellery, such as a necklace, bracelet, or ring, with her name, initials, or wedding date engraved on it. Every time she wears it, she'll be reminded of the love and care you put into choosing this special keepsake for her.

Emotionally, your Dad may be reeling

It's normal for Dads to feel really sad he's losing you. Engagement, as I describe in my eBook, can be a time of grief and loss for everyone in your family. Dads can also be angry — mad he's being replaced by your future husband as the man in your life.

Daughters feel their emotional needs met by their fathers. They feel his approval when they're happy, and also are more likely to be attended to when they're sad. Of course, this adds fuel to the fire of the gender debate on sons inability to express emotions as adults being a result of how they are raised.

While it is tradition that the parents pay for the daughter's wedding, some people are trying to stay away from this tradition. This is not mandatory if the couple is in good financial health. If both of you are covering a bigger portion of the expenses, it makes sense to ask for help from the parents.

What Are the Duties of the Father of the Bride? The traditional roles of the father of the bride include travelling to the wedding with the bride, walking the bride down the aisle, 'giving her away' at the altar and giving a father of the bride speech.

Consider gifting your daughter a piece of personalised jewellery, such as a necklace, bracelet, or ring, with her name, initials, or wedding date engraved on it. Every time she wears it, she'll be reminded of the love and care you put into choosing this special keepsake for her.

Your speech should start by welcoming the guests and thanking the hosts and anyone who helped with the wedding preparations. Then, you should introduce yourself and your relationship to the bride, and tell some personal stories or anecdotes about her.

Walk Down The Aisle

This is one we're sure you know of, and you've probably thought about since your daughter was a little girl. The dad escorts the bride down the aisle and 'gives her away' to the groom.